Often when we think of limitations we see them as negative and restrictive. However, they can also be seen as positive boundaries, as well as just aspects of life which exist without the value judgment of positive or negative, good or bad.
Recently, I was reminded that often when things go wrong, it is related to the proportion of what we are doing, rather than the deed itself. Even in patient care this may show up as being overly cautious or overly aggressive. Especially, when there is so much to do, it can be hard to find the balance.
There are probably times when your desire to help others is so great that you overextend yourself, and you may be subtly harming yourself. The exhaustion that follows and your limited sense of accomplishment are two classic signs of burnout. You’ve missed the mark as far as meeting your self-care need and perhaps even overshot the mark with care/involvement you’ve provided to others.
Knowing your limits is essential to self-growth. Recognition of limitations provides a backdrop for how to proceed. There are times when it is important to challenge yourself and push your limits. However, when you are feeling overwhelmed and lacking confidence, the right challenge may actually be that you engage in self-nurturing.
Recently, I noticed that I was overextended, trying to accomplish more than I could or more than what was needed. I had to face several limitations, some related to a full and busy schedule as well as family obligations and a minor physical challenge. Humility was forced upon me. When life is full and energy is limited, even when well managed, it is time to acknowledge this, and set optimistically realistic boundaries on what can be accomplished. Transforming the limitations into boundaries helps me feel more in control and allows me to focus my choices.
What’s a limitation which you would like to transform into a boundary? What would be the effect of this change in outlook?
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“Givers need to set limits because takers rarely do” Rachel Wolchin
